Why is everyone so damned afraid of feeling sad? It's not that bad. There are bad things in the world but feeling something and knowing what it is and why it is and just being able to detach from it and say, "yeah, that's sadness alright" should be worth something. I think you should have to feel really low, otherwise how the hell are you going to appreciate feeling better?

Plus every day, something that feels like it is going to break you that does not break you is an incredible thing to learn about yourself. You're much stronger on the other side of this tragedy, whatever yours is. And there is always an other side.

Maybe I'm too clinical about it. But it's not like as we age and move through life it gets easier. People die, parents are going to die, friends and siblings. Most of us will have to bury a lot of people we love before its our turn. Of course that's scary. But it's life. It's life and more importantly, it's yours. It's the only one you get.

Learn how to sit with the pain, goddammit. Just because you're hurt doesn't mean you're by yourself in anything.